My boyfriend needs Viagra – the lack of spontaneity is killing my sex drive

My boyfriend needs Viagra – the lack of spontaneity is killing my sex drive

The Guardian

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He couldn’t maintain an erection, so he got some medication. But the fact that sex has to be agreed in advance is a turn-off for me

I started dating my boyfriend seven months ago, and it has been amazing. I love him, he makes me laugh, he is so kind to me – but we still haven’t mastered the bedroom. When we first got together, he couldn’t maintain an erection to have penetrative sex. This upset him, and I stopped trying to initiate sex because it just wasn’t a pleasant experience. He has since ordered Viagra, and we have been able to have sex, but for a while it felt as if he was calling the shots. He wouldn’t tell me when he was taking one, and would just spring the erection on me. I told him how I felt, and now he asks me if he should take one – or I ask him to take one.

But I still struggle with the fact I can’t just have sex with him – it has to be planned. We’re young and healthy, so it is definitely a mental thing. I’m the first girl he has slept with where there’s an actual emotional connection.

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